The Flow in a Relationship

November 15, 2009

Dear Friends,

I’m sure you’re well aware that you rarely—if ever—get anywhere in life completely on your own. Usually, reaching your chosen destinations in life requires the participation, cooperation, and support of others. This is especially true when you are in a very close relationship with another person—a spouse, a partner, or a family member, for example.

When your choices immediately and directly affect someone else, it may feel as if you and that other person are literally "in the same boat”—that you are both in the same “Relation Ship,” so to speak. That's when rowing your boat in harmony with each other becomes of paramount importance.

The question is, how do you both "row with the flow" when the two of you do not immediately agree on a goal, or do not agree on the next right step for reaching a goal? That particular question is one that I often get asked. And here is my answer:

For a couple to stay in the flow—or even for a close-knit group to move forward in a mutually beneficial way—it is helpful when each person in that relationship is willing to do four things:

Take the time to attune himself or herself to his or her inner guidance.

Have the patience to wait for that inner guidance to unfold for everyone involved.

Practice loving kindness so everyone feels safe enough to express their thoughts and feelings during the process.

And most of all, let go of what he or she originally thought was best.

As most of you know, I have been in a close relationship with my loving partner, Carol, for many years now. Our daily life together has always felt like it was "in the flow." But does that mean that on a day-to-day basis we always instantly agree on every single step we are considering taking? No.

There are plenty of days when we try to point "our boat" in completely different directions. But when that happens, we take the time to slow down and listen to our hearts. We pause, and sense how alternative options "feel." In other words, we focus our attention on our inner wisdom—our intuition.

When we do that, one of two things usually occurs: One of us will let go of his or her plan because it becomes apparent that it was just an ego-driven impulse, and not a true desire of the heart. Or, one of us will be divinely inspired with a completely new and different idea—one that is not only mutually beneficial, but one that also "feels right" to both of us.

The beauty of intuitive guidance is that it always benefits all parties. And why does it? Because the ultimate source of your intuitive guidance is the One Spirit that unites us all—that creative, loving, divine energy that we are all expressions of . . . resulting in the kind of guidance that is always in the best interests of everyone.

So, are you in the kind of relationship with another person—or a group of people—where mutual support and cooperation is necessary to get where you want to go? Then remember to treat everyone involved with loving kindness, and take the time to listen to your heart. You will be amazed at how people with diverse needs, ideas, dreams, and desires can all come together and be part of one mutually fulfilling flow . . . an effortless flow . . . a flow that is nothing less than divine.

Steven

© 2009 by Steven Lane Taylor
Author of Row, Row, Row Your Boat:
A Guide for Living Life in the Divine Flow
www.rowrowrow.com