Saturday, November 28, 2009

Coping With Change

November 29, 2009

Dear Friends,

As the popular saying goes, “The only constant in life is change.” It is easy to see how that saying relates to the divine flow of life. Obviously, as you pursue your goals and dreams in life, you must be willing to “row with the flow” and continually adjust to any unexpected changes in the course of the current.

But did you realize that even when you do reach your chosen destinations in life, change is something that you may still have to cope with?

I end most of my workshops by telling a story about a dear friend of mine who followed the divine flow to the job of her dreams. But guess what? After a few years, things changed . . . and that job no longer exits.

Similarly, I have often written about the wonderful house in Arizona that Carol and I were divinely guided to rent. And yet, after three years, things changed . . . and Carol and I just moved into a different house a few blocks away.

As I see it, there are two main reasons why things we have miraculously manifested in our lives don’t seem to last:

For one, you must remember that—on a deep soul level—true satisfaction in life arises mostly from the process of manifesting. Once something has been manifested, your spirit is hungry to create anew, and it inspires you to begin the process all over again. That’s why a painter doesn’t stop painting after completing a single work of art. He or she will continue to create one work of art after another.

Another reason that things we love in life tend to change over time is because of the ripple effect initiated by free will choices. In the last year alone, most of our lives have changed dramatically due to the radically different economic landscape. And many experts believe that landscape was directly altered by some misguided choices that were made by people working in the financial sector.

No matter what initiates it, a change of any kind can be a source of tension and anxiety. Even when a change in your life is obviously for the better, you may still resist it—clinging to a familiar past for comfort. Even when the future seems ripe with positive possibilities, you may still feel uneasy about stepping into the unknown.

If you are going through a major shift in your life right now, take a moment to reaffirm what you know to be the Truth. It is the Truth that everything can be a stepping-stone to your highest good . . . if you are willing to see it that way. It is the Truth that you are continually being guided by The Divine to a life of greater happiness, satisfaction, and ease . . . and your job is simply to remain open and receptive to that guidance by maintaining a positive outlook.

Instead of resisting change, why not choose to actively embrace it? Instead of fighting the current, make a conscious decision to “row with the flow,” and allow yourself to experience the peace that comes from consciously cooperating with life . . . even when it unfolds in very unexpected ways.


© 2009 by Steven Lane Taylor
Author of Row, Row, Row Your Boat:
A Guide for Living Life in the Divine Flow

Saturday, November 21, 2009

Thanks for Everything!

November 22, 2009

Dear Friends,

On Thursday, November 26th, citizens of the United States will be celebrating Thanksgiving Day. It’s a day when we express gratitude for all the things in our lives that we really do appreciate, but often forget to be consciously thankful for . . . such as food, family, and friends.

Well, here’s a challenge for you: Can you also be thankful for the things in your life that you do not appreciate? Can you be thankful for the people in your life that you hold resentments against? Can you be thankful for the circumstances in your life that have brought you discomfort . . . or even pain?

Yes, you can . . . if you see those challenges as opportunities to discover what your blocks to loving are. Yes, you can . . . if you see those challenges as opportunities to heal wounds you may have forgotten you have. Yes, you can . . . if you see those challenges as opportunities to remember how precious life is, and to renew your appreciation for it.

When you look at the challenges in your life as opportunities to mature emotionally and spiritually, everything that occurs in your life can be viewed as a blessing. And blessings are something that you are thankful for, right?

So this Thanksgiving—and throughout the year—be thankful not only for the “good” in your life, but also for what you judge to be “not so good.”

Be thankful for the entire experience of life, including the opportunities it gives you to grow in wisdom and compassion.

Be thankful for the entire experience of life, including the opportunities it gives you to grow in your ability to love others—and to love yourself —unconditionally.

Be thankful for the entire experience of life, including the opportunities it gives you to remember that life itself is a sacred gift . . . a gift that is meant to be enjoyed to its fullest, and never taken for granted.

Giving thanks today and every day . . . for everything . . .


P.S. I am especially grateful to each and every one of you who have supported my work this past year with your tithes and offerings. It is your generous gifts that make this ongoing labor of love possible, and I greatly appreciate your help. Thank you one and all!

© 2009 by Steven Lane Taylor
Author of Row, Row, Row Your Boat:
A Guide for Living Life in the Divine Flow

Friday, November 13, 2009

The Flow in a Relationship

November 15, 2009

Dear Friends,

I’m sure you’re well aware that you rarely—if ever—get anywhere in life completely on your own. Usually, reaching your chosen destinations in life requires the participation, cooperation, and support of others. This is especially true when you are in a very close relationship with another person—a spouse, a partner, or a family member, for example.

When your choices immediately and directly affect someone else, it may feel as if you and that other person are literally "in the same boat”—that you are both in the same “Relation Ship,” so to speak. That's when rowing your boat in harmony with each other becomes of paramount importance.

The question is, how do you both "row with the flow" when the two of you do not immediately agree on a goal, or do not agree on the next right step for reaching a goal? That particular question is one that I often get asked. And here is my answer:

For a couple to stay in the flow—or even for a close-knit group to move forward in a mutually beneficial way—it is helpful when each person in that relationship is willing to do four things:
Take the time to attune himself or herself to his or her inner guidance.

Have the patience to wait for that inner guidance to unfold for everyone involved.

Practice loving kindness so everyone feels safe enough to express their thoughts and feelings during the process.

And most of all, let go of what he or she originally thought was best.
As most of you know, I have been in a close relationship with my loving partner, Carol, for many years now. Our daily life together has always felt like it was "in the flow." But does that mean that on a day-to-day basis we always instantly agree on every single step we are considering taking? No.

There are plenty of days when we try to point "our boat" in completely different directions. But when that happens, we take the time to slow down and listen to our hearts. We pause, and sense how alternative options "feel." In other words, we focus our attention on our inner wisdom—our intuition.

When we do that, one of two things usually occurs: One of us will let go of his or her plan because it becomes apparent that it was just an ego-driven impulse, and not a true desire of the heart. Or, one of us will be divinely inspired with a completely new and different idea—one that is not only mutually beneficial, but one that also "feels right" to both of us.

The beauty of intuitive guidance is that it always benefits all parties. And why does it? Because the ultimate source of your intuitive guidance is the One Spirit that unites us all—that creative, loving, divine energy that we are all expressions of . . . resulting in the kind of guidance that is always in the best interests of everyone.

So, are you in the kind of relationship with another person—or a group of people—where mutual support and cooperation is necessary to get where you want to go? Then remember to treat everyone involved with loving kindness, and take the time to listen to your heart. You will be amazed at how people with diverse needs, ideas, dreams, and desires can all come together and be part of one mutually fulfilling flow . . . an effortless flow . . . a flow that is nothing less than divine.


© 2009 by Steven Lane Taylor
Author of Row, Row, Row Your Boat:
A Guide for Living Life in the Divine Flow

Friday, November 6, 2009

Discernment and The Divine Flow

November 8, 2009

Dear Friends,

Last week I suggested that you refrain from acting hastily whenever someone encourages you to “push through” a problem—to “force your way forward,” so to speak. Although the accomplishment of a goal or dream may require a great deal of patience on your part, the divine flow will never ask you to “force” anything. Nor, usually, will it require you to endure extreme conditions of any kind. Generally speaking, the path of the flow is always one of grace and ease, even when it takes an unexpected turn.

Like most weeks, I received a lot of nice responses to my message. But this time, I noticed that most of the readers who wrote to me had gotten more out of my message than was actually spelled out in “black and white.” They read between the lines, and saw the bigger message that was implied.

Today, I want to go ahead and say what was left unsaid. And that is simply this: No matter what anyone encourages you to do, and no matter how much you respect their advice, opinions, or suggestions, it is up to you to decide what is best for you.

I am not asking you to ignore the suggestions of others. In fact—in addition to divine signs and synchronicities—one of the primary ways that you receive divine direction in life is through others. But never forget that your most valuable and reliable source of guidance is always your own intuition.

Even if someone makes a suggestion that sounds like it is “in the flow” and not at all forceful, it is still up to you to access you inner sense of “knowing” to decide whether that advice is right for you or not.

No matter what people say, or what the signs and synchronicities “seem” to indicate, it is always important to practice divine discernment—to get quiet, go within, and get in touch with that subtle, inner sense that helps you distinguish between “yes, this feels right for me,” or “no, this doesn’t feel like it is in my best interest.”

As Rev. Suzanne Bishop of Payson, Arizona wrote to me this week: “I have learned the importance of taking personal responsibility for my own well-being—to not allow anyone to override my internal guidance, and to resist the efforts of someone else to push me beyond what I intuit is good or safe for me at the time.”

Friends, it is helpful to receive guidance from “without”—from signs and synchronicities, and from friends, family, teachers, and other leaders. But for the most part, that information should just be used to confirm what your own heart is telling you. In the end, every decision that you make, and every action that you take, should be based on the wisdom that lies “within”—on the wisdom of your very own spirit.


© 2009 by Steven Lane Taylor
Author of Row, Row, Row Your Boat:
A Guide for Living Life in the Divine Flow