Self-Sabotage

March 2, 2008

Dear Friends,

Although you may think that you are very clear about certain things that you want to have, do, or be in life, you may still end up making choices that—to an outside observer—are obviously sabotaging your ability to achieve those goals.

Why would you do that?

One reason (among many) is because you may have underlying beliefs about life that are influencing your decisions in an unconstructive way.

You may say that you want to have a fulfilling relationship, but somewhere along the line you may have come to believe that “all relationships are doomed to failure.” You may say that you want a wonderful job, but at an early age you may have come to believe that “good things only happen to other people.”

Unconsciously, you allow beliefs such as these to rule your life, and you make self-defeating choices that continue to keep those underlying ideas intact.

Do you have a re-occurring issue in your life that is counterproductive to your well-being? That could be a sign that you are harboring a belief that is limiting you. One thing you can do to help heal that issue is to ask yourself this question: “Why would I choose that?” When you ask yourself that question, you are doing two things:

First, by accepting the idea that you—at some level—are actually choosing what you experience in life, you help free yourself from the helpless mentality of a victim. Taking full responsibility for what you experience in life helps you regain your power to make different and more constructive choices.

Second, by asking yourself why you experience what you do, your willingness to find the answer within yourself is often all it takes to bring long-forgotten beliefs into the light. Once brought to light, the false, simplistic, and childish nature of many of these ideas is obvious, and they can often be quickly dispelled.

I am not claiming here that this question—“Why would I choose that?”—is a magical fix for all of your frustrations. I am just offering it as a simple first step for breaking free from the past, and reclaiming your ability to make choices that are truly aligned with your goals, dreams, and desires.

If you want to live life in the divine flow, try to be as completely honest with yourself as you can be. Whenever you choose a destination in life, make sure that you really do want to go where you say you do.

Steven

P.S. In Joe Vitale’s book, “The Key,” you will find 10 other methods for clearing what I call “negative subconscious programming.” Although this book contains way too much blatant advertising for other programs that Joe and his associates offer, I still think that this book is valuable for one simple reason: People have different ways of learning and healing, and you may discover that one of the techniques that Joe describes is especially well-suited to you. You can find out more about “The Key” on the Helpful Links page of my website.

© 2008 by Steven Lane Taylor